I needed some help with the work load. I was working too much at office, sometimes overnight. I had little time for the housework. Domestic things weren't getting done. I told my husband I needed his help: "You need to do more". But husbands pretend that they don't know how to do things inside of the home :)."You need to do more, please, I mean it." I said. He meant well - he always does."Tell me what you want dear and I'll do it”. My response: "Please see it yourself? I can’t tell you every small thing". It isn't my way to nag him; It isn't my way to grumble; My way is to do it myself. So I continued doing everything alone without complaining.
But as days passed, I saw him silently with a baby's confusion on his face struggling through the housework. Partially doing cleaning when am watching him and mostly watching TV when am not around. He would now do things without asking me; in a way he can. Things had changed.
On one of those days during the episode, when I slipped in to the couch tired and worn out, he gently rubbed my hair away from the eyes and said, “I understand dear, you had a tiring day. I wish I could do it all, but you know am bad at it. Even you need not do it if it is so exhausting. Everything can wait. Now just relax and you will be alright”, he said kissing my forehead.
Though till date I do 90% of the house work, somehow I feel relieved now. Then where was the problem?
The problem was, Sometimes we fail to understand what we actually need. We feel antsy and restless and we don't know why. We feel like we want something, but can't put finger on it. That’s the time when you have to maintain your cool and relax. Give some time for things to settle down and then think what you actually need.
Probably what I needed then, was not sharing my workload, Probably I was just turned off by feeling alone in everything I do at home. I was exhausted and frustrated with the load. What I needed was compassion and love.
With such a loving Husband who gives hope when life is low, a place when I have no-where to go, who is always next to me wiping all my tears away, being my best friend, I am sure there will never be lack of love and compassion anytime in life.
